Rough stones


I took this photo as my wife and I are celebrating 12 years of marriage. The stones represent what we looked like as we entered our marriage – uncut & rough at the edges.

After 12 years, we have had the privilege of being used to knock against each other time and time again – chipping off bits, smoothing rough edges. It hasn’t always been pleasant – having rough edges cut off is often painful (and sometimes brutal!)

But the result is that the stones that we see today (I hope) look completely different to those that we saw 12 years ago, with many of the external ‘rough edges’ knocked off, beginning to reveal smoother sections from inside the stone.

Incredibly, it was recently pointed out to me that what is revealed on the inside of a broken stone has not been seen by any human eye since God created it! What an amazing privilege that is – to be the first human to see the true nature of someone else – to see character, gifts & skills that God created in someone, and to be involved in the process of seeing those serve others.

When we let God be in charge of that process, what is revealed is the true character that God intended for us.The relationship we have is part of His incredible sculpting process that some might call ‘discipleship’..

I have been dwelling on this as I pray for the future – asking God to use our relationship to be part of our discipleship process, as iron is allowed to sharpen iron, or stones are allowed to shape other stones – forming us into Christ’s likeness.

Then he took his staff in his hand and chose five smooth stones from the brook and put them in his shepherd’s pouch. (1 Sam 17:40)

On a certain memorable day, David took 5 smooth stones from the brook – what is interesting is that the stones would have started off like the ones in my picture. We know how this story continues – after years of knocking against the other stones in the brook, they were finally ready for a noble purpose.

I am thankful today for S – that God has allowed the trials and challenges of our 12 years together to make us fit for purpose – and since we serve a King, that is noble enough for me.