Embracing Graciousness and Courtesy in Marriage

Marriage, that wondrous journey where love, quirks, and occasionally, socks lying around, intertwine. It’s like a lifelong RSVP to a partner’s idiosyncrasies. A celebration of the small things and wins that you have, and will, achieve together. But these achievements can not be truly noticed without the art of graciousness and courtesy. Now, grab your teacup (or coffee mug) and let’s delve into why politeness and thankfulness are the secret ingredient in the recipe for a harmonious marriage.

In the grand ballroom of marriage, graciousness and courtesy waltz in as the unexpected VIPs. These small etiquettes don’t just garnish your relationship; they’re the heart-shaped confetti of everyday interactions. It’s saying “please” and “thank you” when your partner remembers to pick up your favorite snack or brews a cup of tea without being asked. It’s the “excuse me” when interrupting a Netflix marathon for a sudden announcement.

Let’s start with a picture of the typical chaos of a regular morning. The toast just decided to take an unconventional flying leap from the toaster. Your significant other, well, they placed the emptied milk carton back in the fridge without mentioning it to anyone. Cue the internal eyebrow raise and wait for the quick wrath of sweet justice. Wait!!! Before you embark on an unintentional (or intentional) lecture series. Take a breath and channel your inner Peter Post (Author of Essential Manners for Men: What to Do, When to Do It, and Why). It’s not just about the toast or the milk; it’s about graciousness, courtesy and love (remember this is the person you chose).

And let’s face it, there’s an unspoken magic in those seemingly mundane courtesies. Like a well-timed comedy sketch, they add a sprinkle of humor to life’s regular screenplay. Ever noticed how saying “after you” during the morning bathroom dash turns into a game of polite Olympics? It’s not just about who brushes first; it’s a whimsical display of mutual consideration.

Courtesy in marriage isn’t just about “I’m sorry” when things go sideways. It’s about creating an environment where empathy thrives like a well-watered bonsai. “I’m sorry you had a rough day” holds a different tune than “I’m sorry I left my socks in the hallway – again.” See the subtle shift? It’s about acknowledging feelings, not just mishaps.

Oh, and let’s not forget the marvels of the ‘thank you’ note. In this case, it’s not the stationery-clad variety but the heartfelt appreciation for the everyday super heroics. “Thank you for handling the chaos while I had a mini meltdown” or “Thank you for pretending to laugh at my terrible jokes.” Appreciation, my friends, is the sprinkles on the cupcake of marital bliss.

But hold your horses; it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. We can not forget about graciousness. Being thankful for the person we love. And  the things they say and do for those they in turn love. And remember… they… love… you. Their actions may be nuts. But they do love and care for you. Graciousness doesn’t always come served on a silver platter. Sometimes, it’s mastering the art of the polite eye-roll or creating a polite diversion when your partner’s fashion choice seems to channel a misplaced era. After all, diplomacy is a key skill in the dance of marriage.

In the symphony of married life, graciousness and courtesy are the rhythm and melody. They’re the fine-tuned instruments that keep the harmony alive. So, grab your spouse and let’s celebrate and dance our way through marriage with a sprinkle of politeness, a dash of humor, and a whole lot of love.

Marriage isn’t just about navigating life together. It’s about going through it with a splash of courtesy, a dollop of gratitude and lots and lots of grace. So, here’s to holding doors, forgiving forgotten anniversaries, and laughing at each other’s dad jokes – because being polite is never out of style, especially in the rollercoaster ride of love called marriage.